Read through Ephesians 5:21 – 33. Note how the husband is charged. Look especially at Ephesians 5:23, 25. The husband is head of the wife as Christ is head of the church and he is supposed to love his wife as Christ loved the Church. Now consider what Christ did for the Church. Philippians 2: 5 – 8 tells us that He emptied Himself for the Church. The husband is to love his wife in the same way.
Not an easy assignment. Submission to that type of leadership would be easier.