Those of you who have been through this yourself or with loved ones know that there is a level of dissonance ever present in your day as you walk through or with this situation.
We read in Psalm 139:3 – 6, 16, that our sovereign, loving God has ordained our days. That includes the hard stuff. There is a purpose. We do not allways know what that purpose may be, but there is a purpose nonetheless. The alternative is that these things are random tragedies that our God could have prevented but did not. Complacent and detached do not seem to be attributes of God that can be validated by any level of study of His Word.
So how are we to respond? It seems to me that we are to trust in Him who says He is intimately engaged in our lives in order to conform us to the image of His son. We may not like or understand the means, but we are asked to trust.