Psalm 73:3 tells me where to start. David said it first and it rings true with me. David was envious of the arrogant. That is it isn’t it. When I think something is unfair, the real issue with me is envy. I think somehow I should be getting the attention rather than the one who is “arrogant.”
That envy reveals in me a lack of trust of God’s plan for my life. I do not trust Him that He has for me His best. Or I do not agree with Him that what He has for me is best; which is another problem.
I cannot control what God is doing with someone else, whether I think it is fair, right, or not. I am responsible for my response to what I see. Envy, plain and simple, is sin. That is something I can deal with. Perhaps not easily, but it is something I must deal with all the same.