Over the years I have changed. How much is up for grabs. One result of the changes is that about 20 years ago I sought out some of those "dead bodies" and asked their forgiveness. I am learning that people not only need to know what to do, they have to be shown how, and continually encouraged as they learn.
Further I am learning that no matter how good I am at showing someone what to do, it is not enough. Psalm 127:1 leaps to mind. If The Lord is not involved, well then, according to John15:5, not much, read nothing, is going to happen.
2 Timothy 2:24 - 25, is a great guide for me. I have to work hard to instruct, but it is The Lord who will actually be the one who binds the truth into to the heart of those whom I have been assigned to help.
So rather than holding folks accountable, I am learning to rest and join in what The Lord is doing in their life.
Sometimes I regress. But the trajectory is hopeful.