We tend to assume that there is only one way for us to really serve. That is not the case. Our most effective service will be that for which God designed us. Romans 12, 1 Corinthians 12, and Ephesians 4 tell us that our gifts and abilities are given to build up the body and that all of us are necessary.
To impact the kingdom most effectively we need to pay attention to how the Lord has put us together and do not let the church force us into its mold.