At some point in the meal my friend asked his kids, “What do you think are the four or five most important things to daddy?” Whoa, talk about exposure. His oldest is 12 and his youngest 2. Significant filters have not been constructed in their thinking. He opened himself up for some… well I will let him relate what happened.
He told me that the in the next few days he came back to his kids and apologized for misleading them as to what was important by his life choices. Being the best, working hard, fixing the house, doing a job right were good things but not the most important. He told them that there would be some changes in his behavior toward them. That he would begin to be more intentional about modeling for them what was truly important.
We talked briefly then about how he was going to introduce consistent time in the Word into their experience.
He took a great risk in asking that question. It took integrity to listen, process what his kids said, and then commit to make changes to better communicate to them what he really values.
You may want to follow his lead.