This weekend our youngest child will get married. This is something that we have anticipated for the last 32 years, since our first child was born. That does not make it any easier. Certainly we are excited for him. We love his fiance and have know here and her family for around 18 years. But this is a deep change for us.
No longer will our house be the primary residence for any of our children. It has been that way for all but 2.5 years of the 35 years we have been married. We have to get used to a quieter and somewhat cleaner house. With that change there are several more we are learning to work through. How do we “parent” married children? How do we develop good relationships with our children’s spouses and their extended families? Add that to the reality of the emerging grandchildren – what does a good grandparent look like? We have some models, our folks, what do we learn from them? How or can we improve?
I was talking to a person last weekend that I had not seen in about 20 years. We were thinking through all of this and she remarked, “I thought as we got older life would get simpler.” Not so much.
I remember when our first child was born we spent a lot of time standing on James 1:5 – 6. It seems like we have never left that foundation and probably never will.