How is that relationship between the guy on the left and the girl on the right going to work out? Everyone I have shared this with has responded identically. He will be the best man at the wedding of his friend and the girl he wanted to get to know.
It is ridiculous for him to think he could get to know her like that. You probably have made the connection. There are a number of believers who are approaching their relationship the same way. They let the pastor or the Sunday school teacher do the study and then listen to what they have learned. It is a lot like watching a P90X DVD and expecting to get cardio and strength benefit from watching them work out.
It does not work.