Problem is that is what the Lord has set up. He gave us the Word, the Holy Spirit, and tells us multiple times how important it is that we are to spend time with Him in His Word. To call that legalism is like calling living with your wife after you say, “I do,” legalism. I mean you are married, you have told her you are committed to her for the rest of your life? Why should you have to talk to her, or live with her again? Can’t you just know her without that interaction? You should not have to remember her birthday, your anniversary, her parent’s names, any of that stuff; you have committed, shoot, you don’t really ever have to think about her again.
Does not sound like much of a marriage, much less a relationship.